Thoughts on love and marriage

Here is a snippet of what OSHO had said about love and marriage:

In a better, more intelligent world, people will love, but will not make any contracts.

It is not a business!

They will understand each other, and they will understand the changing flux of life.

They will be true to each other.

The moment the man feels that now his beloved holds no joy for him, he will say that the time has come to part.

There is no need for marriage, there is no need for divorce.

Then friendship will be possible.

You ask me why friendship is not possible between men and women....

Friendship is not possible between the jailer and the imprisoned.

And men and women either become husbands and wives -- which is something absolutely ugly; they start owning each other....

People are not things, you cannot have ownership

And if you give full freedom to each other, perhaps you can remain together for your whole life, or for the whole eternity, because there is no need to get rid of each other.

Marriage creates the need to get rid of each other, because it means freedom is taken away -- and freedom is the highest value in human life.

"It is freedom between us, not a marriage license. Out of freedom we meet, with no promises for the future -- because who knows the future?"

Love is of the heart; marriage is of the mind.

Marriage should be transcended; only then real marriage happens.

Marriage should be forgotten completely.

In fact the other person you have been in love with should always remain a stranger and never should be taken for granted.

When two persons live as strangers, there is a beauty to it, a very simple, innocent beauty to it.

And when you live with somebody as a stranger....

Remember the sacredness and holiness of the other.

Never impinge on it; never trespass it.

A lover is always hesitant.

He always gives you space to be yourself.

He is grateful; he never feels that you are his possession.

He is thankful that sometimes in rare moments you allow him your innermost shrine to enter and to be with you.

He is always thankful.